This is slightly surreal. I haven’t managed my own blog page since I was 21 years old. A decade ago. Life has changed a little since then…
I’m a Daddy. I have been since August, 2016 and to date, it’s the best job I’ve ever had.
I’ve changed a lot in the 10 years since I last managed a personal blog. The world has too. I somehow managed to get a full time job (a few actually), buy a house (OK, a few of those too to be honest), and have a beautiful baby girl. I count those as major successes.
A few things also didn’t go so well…
So I’m a single Daddy. Evie’s Mummy and I split up in March 2019 and since then I’ve been grappling with this foreign concept of never living at home with my baby girl ever again. Quite frankly, a lot of other shit happened in the process, but for now…This is us.
The Broken Dad
If you’re unlucky enough to have gone through a separation, you’ll know how tough it can be. There are so many feelings and scenarios that I couldn’t possibly give any justice to in a short little blog post, so I’ll unpack those at some point in the future.
The long and short of it: I’ve always been a doting Daddy. The circumstances have changed somewhat, but that fact still remains. What the separation has allowed me to do, is take total control over the way I bring up my daughter in my time and the experience I give her when she’s with me.
That’s beautiful and I’ve taken full advantage of it.
2019 was the toughest year of my life, but I’m proud to say that I came out the other side.
Building a support network
The content you’ll see here is designed to be as supportive as possible, whether you’re a parent in a relationship or not. Parenting is a tough gig and there are times you’ll feel lonely, lost and perhaps a shadow of your former self.
It’s not uncommon for people to lose their sense of identity when they become parents. Your focus shifts and you’re not numero uno any more. If you don’t manage it correctly, it sucks. It doesn’t have to.
I hope you enjoy reading about what Evie and me get up to.
Dan – The Breaking Dad