I remember the feeling of sheer dread the first day I introduced Rosie to Evie. The idea of a blended family seemed scary.
Up until that day, I’d been living two lives since separation: Dad and Dan.
In my days with Evie, I’d be focused solely on her from the moment I’d collect her to the moment she went home.
In my days without Evie, I’d just wish the days away until I saw her again.
This phase of my life was a real journey of self-discovery; I’d always been terrible at being alone and then, here I was, alone…a lot.
I found mindfulness and yoga and really focus on finding myself and who I am. Lots of the answers were covered in this post, ‘10 things you should start doing for a happier life‘.
Then I met Rosie.
Things were great from the off and we spent (and still do spend) most of our time together and just enjoying each other’s company.
All-of-a-sudden my life outside of Evie mattered a little more.
You can read more about how Rosie and I met here.
We waited a while until introducing Evie to Rosie. I was so worried because it was uncharted territory. I’d never introduced a child to a new partner before so how would I know I was doing the right thing!?
I spoke to Evie’s mum first and made sure we took things VERY slowly – completely at Evie’s pace.
They met, hit it off beautifully our two little world’s collided.
My introduction to Rosie’s beautiful daughters came soon after and I’ve been blown away by how quickly they’ve become little best buddies.
It’s just so effortless.
We had such a lovely day making cakes together yesterday and life, it seems, is moving in the right direction.
I don’t know when it’ll be the right time to use the ‘blended family’ label, but it certainly feels like it’s not far off.
And you know what? That feels good.
Oh and in case you’re wondering, we made these Butterfly cakes.